How to tame
When you buy a lovebird and first get your pet home you should leave
it fairly undisturbed for a few days while it takes in its new surroundings and gets used to them. If you have bought a tame baby the
only thing that you will have to do to begin a rewarding pet relationship is to gently take it out of its cage and play with it for short
periods several times a day. There are 2 good reasons not to overdo it.
First, the baby should not be separated from its food and water for extended periods. It is still growing rapidly, eating often, and sleeping
more than an adult bird. I would suggest keeping early play sessions under 15 minutes then returning the baby to its cage
for at least twice as long as it was out. Second, it is tempting to lavish a great deal of attention on a new animal for a
few weeks while you are very excited about having a new friend, then, just as it becomes accustomed to a high level of human
interaction, sharply reduce the amount of time you spend playing with your bird as other things in your life reassert their usual priority.
If you can, its best to figure out what level of interaction you're likely to be able to sustain over
the long run and start as you intend to go on.
These play times are a good opportunity to introduce the up command which will be important throughout your bird's life as a
means of keeping it tame and reminding it who is flock leader in your house. It is very simple. Just put your extended finger
crosswise against the bird's chest and say "up" or "step up" in a firm but not aggressive voice while gently pushing up and back.
The bird will lose its balance and step up onto your finger. Soon it will respond to the verbal command without your having to
push against its chest. Laddering is an exercise where you have the bird repeatedly step from one hand to another.
A few minutes of laddering each day is your best insurance against dominance related behaviour problems later on.
If you have an older, never tamed bird or a lapsed hand-fed you will have to take things much more slowly.
The initial period of adjustment will be a bit longer and the taming will go much more slowly.
I begin with a good wing clip since a non-flying bird can't run away as easily and is more dependent on me.
Then I start by simply holding my hand inside the cage while talking to the bird in a soothing voice.
It doesn't matter what you say you can read the paper, recite poetry, discuss politics (if you can keep your voice calm),
whatever. When the bird has settled down from its initial reaction to your hand you can either end the session with a bit of praise
for the bird or you can move your hand a bit closer and keep talking. Just be sure to hold your hand still,
the bird will never settle down if you are wiggling it around.
After you've made progress with the hand in the cage you will want to get the bird out to interact with it outside
its secure territory. Some birds will come out on their own, others are cage bound and will not venture outside the
only oasis of security they have ever known. If your bird will come out you may be able to get him to step onto a spare perch
so that you can move him to a small, enclosed room where the two of you can be alone in an environment where the bird will
be inclined to cling to you as the only familiar object. If not you will have to towel the bird to get him out of the cage
(gently cover him with a medium size towel so that he can be handled without fear of being bitten,
because the bird's eyes are covered it can't see any danger and is more tolerant of handling).
This is best done in a steady, no-nonsense manner that is neither aggressive nor so timid that you fail.
Do not begin unless you are sure that you have the stubbornness and the patience to maintain your efforts until your bird is out.
If your bird is extremely nervous you will do nothing but take him out and then return him to his safe place.
If the bird accepts the towelling without panicking carry him to a small, enclosed space such as a shower enclosure,
a small hallway that you can block off, or a closet that isn't so cluttered as to be dangerous. It must be out of sight of its cage.
Personally I've always used the shower enclosure. The point is to get the bird into a place that's too small for it
to be able to easily run away from you.
Since you are the only familiar object in the area and it can't see its own territory it will be much more
responsive to taming. Continue to talk to your bird and, when it seems calm offer it your arm, or a spare perch and begin
to teach the up command. Never end the session until some progress has been made, at least a reduction in nervousness,
but don't drag it on. Short, frequent sessions are best In time you will be able to pick the bird up on your hand and carry
it about. Petting or using your hand to pick the bird up inside the cage may be a long time coming but may be possible in the long run.
Persistence and constancy is the key.